#AuthorToolBoxBlogHop -Let’s Get Romantic

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Happy May. If you’re like me, you’re barreling toward the end of the school year with kid activities. A busy time for sure, but I’m looking forward to not getting up at 6:30am. However, I’m not looking forward to refereeing fights between my younger two. Tis is mom life. Anyway new month, means new #AuthorToolBoxBlogHop post.

So, did the title scare you a little? I’m a romance author, it’s what I do and not everyone is comfortable writing romance. Now, I’m not talking the sexy bits, that’s a whole different post. I mean just the romance. The relationship between the two people itself can be awkward.

If you’ve been wanting to add a romantic element to your story, but have been worried about how to go about it, I’m hoping this post will get you started on that journey.

First question to ask, is why you want the romance.

  • Not every story needs to have a romantic element therefore the reason you want to attempt it needs to make sense to your overall plot. Otherwise it leads to point number two.

Don’t force it.

  • Like with other parts of a story, the romantic element needs to feel natural to the plot. If it doesn’t the reader will know. Ever watch say an action movie and for some reason there is this near over the top deep connection between the leads? The Punisher comes to mind for me. The ‘connection’ between Thomas Jane and Rebecca Romijn I never got. Like why couldn’t they simply be friends like with the other guys that were in the rundown apartment building. That romantic element felt rushed and unneeded for the overall plot of the movie. You don’t want that for the one you add to your story.

Stay within your comfort zone

  • If you think you’re going to struggle writing any sort of affectionate bits, then don’t. Again, not every story needs it. Sometimes the unspoken connection and sexual tension is just as, if not more compelling. Back to the action movies (what can I say I like to watch them). Hitman, the one with Timothy Olyphant, there is a natural progression between his character and the character Nika. But nothing ever comes of it. You can feel it, you can see how they help each other in unexpected ways but it never goes beyond the tension.

That’s really the basics on getting started if romance isn’t your normal wheelhouse. As always, these are simply my opinions and nowhere near close to anything ‘expert’ level. If all else fails, make friends with a romance author and ask for help. We’re generally nice people and enjoy talking about the genre we love.

Don’t know any romance authors, next best thing is to read a romance novel. There are plenty that are low to no heat if you’re not into all the sexy time bits. There is more nuance and layers that go into crafting a romantic relationship that can’t be fully explained in a blog post, but hopefully this has given you a starting point.

Until next time


8 thoughts on “#AuthorToolBoxBlogHop -Let’s Get Romantic

  1. raimeygallant says:

    I’m really loving how some newer shows aren’t forcing romance between leads just because they’re a man and a woman. Elementary, for example. Last season coming soon! 🙂 Great post! There is some romance in my stories, but, just as romance isn’t a fit for my life, it isn’t a great fit for my stories either.

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    • Meka James says:

      I have missed that show. They kept changing the day around so I’m seriously behind. Gonna have to get it on disc. But good to know. And I love they kept them as platonic! I used to love Castle and it went downhill when they put the two leads together. I lost interest as it became more about their relationship than the cases.

      thanks for stopping by


  2. Iola says:

    Great tips! I read and edit a lot of Christian romance, and I think your tips hold equally true for anyone considering adding a Christian or spiritual thread to their novel.

    And I’d definitely echo your advice to read romance novels if you’re planning to write romance – that’s good advice for any genre.

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    • Meka James says:

      Thank you. And yay, glad they can be applied to other areas of writing. 🙂 It really boils down to being mindful of what you’re writing.

      Reading in the genre helps. It’s not as ‘easy’ as some want to think.

      thanks for stopping by


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